>>85097forgot to respond to this but thanks for the reply, this bread turned out to be far more interesting than i initially expected.
>you could try to delude yourself into be aromantic/aroace by way of constant affirmation (i.e. thinking to yourself "i will never love roastie")ive always been pretty hesitant towards that brand of new age/ pop-psych stuff, but i do think this is worth a try. its not a high risk endeavor like tulpamancy where the worst that can happen is that i end up stuck having my conscious psychic energy ripped from me while i become enslaved to a malevolent egregore, and the reward of something good happening (overcoming desire) far outweighs the negative of nothing happening. im not going to rule out tulpas entirely though, but i don't think im very inclined to do it
>truly, i think you should try and talk to that girl you likei dont really care for her anymore, at least i don't think i do. i notice that my mind only usually wanders to this stuff when i don't have anything that important to be upset or worried about. i can overcome it, at least until i feel another bout of it coming on. i say that because i notice that these feelings usually come in phases, which makes them hard to eliminate entirely, but there is a definite period of reprieve.
>or do what most normies do, and find the "good enough" to piss your life away withi would rather die alone than settle for a female who doesn't truly love me just because it was economically convenient for her and socially/sexually convenient for me. i say this without a whiff of sour grapes. i seriously cannot think of a more imprisoning life than being a slave to my wife like most married normie males are, getting nagged all day by a loveless, used up female who only settled for them because they're a few years older, have a decent career and they're not dreadfully ugly. the omnipresent fear of being divorced, cheated on or having your life ruined some other way due to a neurotic outburst over a trivial argument does not seem worth it.
<on this point, something noteworthy is that, unless you're a chad, you will end up contorting and shifting most of your political & philosophical opinions, hobbies and style of self presentation to conform
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