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so i am no longer a teenager, there's a few things i would like to just note and see if anyone else relates
my upbringing was pretty lackluster, as i was born to a somewhat dysfunctional family and didn't really hang out with my extended family members much, leaving me alone most the time just playing video games. i didn't make many school friends throughout my years, however i wasn't labelled as a "weird kid", just quiet and not engaging much in school. i played a bit of sports like swimming, boxing, football but i didn't really excel in any of them
i just coasted through all stages of school but performed above average enough to get into university, of which im on my 1st year (i took a gap year, which was a pretty menial year of experiencing the wagie life in mcdonalds)
i didn't really have any strong communities or ties to any groups, i'm a bit apolitical and a centrist, however there are a few things and hobbies i'm looking forward to learning like catholicism and mma, and also just learning my heritage (i'm a lithuanian living in england)
and just generally explore different countries soon, maybe improve on my creative abilities like writing, drawing, photography and stuff
i've only had like a handful of romantic experiences but i've never had an official girlfriend, and i have noticed i'm a pretty awkward and nervous guy around women since i'm not that confident in myself, not to mention socially im pretty inexperienced compared to other guys my age, like i only have 4 friends that i talk with regularly and we don't do much. most of my important socialising was online and i was a frequent gamer, many of my "best friends" were just guys i played with but didn't get to know them properly
anyway i wish i was brought up a little bit differently and engaged with more, so that i don't feel so bad about myself all the time, i know this is a bit all over the place but that's all i can think of jotting down atm
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>>77957 (OP)Happy birthday!
The only solution to stop being shy around women is to be friendly and talk more. There are people here who are dead-set on getting a girlfriend, but in most cases it doesn't work. Make friends, not lovers, essentially.
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i turned 20 last year and im pretty much in the same position as you, im in my last year of uni and im worried on what ill do after school or if im even gonna have a decent social life or life in general, im majoring in general computing and im not the best at it mostly because im too lazy to study so i dont even know if ill be able to find a decent job
I have pretty much 0 romantic experiance the only time i was even close to finding a gf was when i was in a course and meet a girl that liked anime and general nerd stuff but because i was a fat chud with self hatred i thought it would never work and i still regret it today.
I also wish i had tried more when i was a kid yet i wont say that im that depressed about it
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>>>77957 (OP)
>Happy birthday!
>The only solution to stop being shy around women is to be friendly and talk more. There are people here who are dead-set on getting a girlfriend, but in most cases it doesn't work. Make friends, not lovers, essentially.
honestly good advice being in a bigger social circle helps
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thanks guys, and
>>77962>>77969how would i go about getting into being socially fluent? to be around women i am a bit rigid and awkward around them due to the chance that i might fall in love with them or something, i overthink often and keep thinking i have to say perfect responses/witty questions in order to be interesting to them, which just works against me since makes it more awkward. i just want to stop caring so much about being around people
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>thanks guys, and
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>>>77969 (You)
>how would i go about getting into being socially fluent? to be around women i am a bit rigid and awkward around them due to the chance that i might fall in love with them or something, i overthink often and keep thinking i have to say perfect responses/witty questions in order to be interesting to them, which just works against me since makes it more awkward. i just want to stop caring so much about being around people
i dont think i can help you much with woman but if you want to get more friends and expand your social circle i would reccomend going on social settings like events, clubs, gym, library etc and also try to make people laugh or let them talk about themself for example recently in the gym i beferended somephono easily by just saying his arms look huge. Idk if this will help with woman but this made me able to be way more sociable in uni compared to high school