>>91491
>Do you think you have more integrity than him?Although i know theres things i had to work on too, id say generally yes. I was very willing to reflect on what i did wrong, maybe sometimes more than i should. I remember repeatedly reassuring him that i was not out after control, i was not after his autonomy ect.. and i tried understanding his perspective.
I think i always thought that if I can just explain myself clearly enough that he would understand, but he never seemed equally interested in understanding me. It hurt feeling like the effort wasnt reciprocated and he told me that its just how he is as a person, but it just feels like distancing yourself from taking accountability for how your actions impact other people
Its an explanation but not an excuse in my opinion, i dont expect people to be as emotional as me, but i dont think being honest and taking accountability is something you need to be an emotional person to do. I was very ready to take accountability, but i dont think he was yet