help Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:30:10 â„– 14596201 [Quote]
So, for most of my life, I'd say I was pretty empathetic. (I think)
Aryan 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:33:44 â„– 14596240 [Quote]
Amerimutt 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:36:42 â„– 14596265 [Quote]
>>14596237 I understand the being desensitised stuff a bit, but it's even stuff that even just a day before this happened would cause me some distress like footage of conflicts, which used to make me like empathise with the people. Now, my first thought is "wow, cool explosion" and than I have to think about how thats people dying
I've tried making friends but once you are out of the point where it isn't forced (elementary), I just can't connect with people.
I've been in 3 online friend groups but it never less more than 2-3 months because I always do something stupid to make it to the point where i'm blocked by everyone in the group chat or something
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:40:59 â„– 14596297 [Quote]
>>14596265 What do you do that makes them block you
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:41:58 â„– 14596309 [Quote]
>>14596265 It honestly sounds like your brain is trying to "not focus" on the tragedies methinks
Brojak 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:42:41 â„– 14596320 [Quote]
I'm an evil nigga can't relate I'd kill millions of people just to gain 25 cents more
Bernd 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:43:46 â„– 14596331 [Quote]
>>14596297 its different stuff
here some examples
this led to them thinking i was going to dox them
i'd delete post like a ton and just be generally asocial, and i was involved in a community in the news (i was just there to talk about history) since one of the members went to prison for planning a violent attack (he was already exiled tho )
I kept getting into arguments and lying for fun (idk why but I lie a ton, especially about pointless stuff)
Mexiaryan 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:45:21 â„– 14596349 [Quote]
>>14596309 this is possible, but its not just tragedies
at work, some crazy black drunk was screaming about shooting up the store, and i just was thinking that it'd be funny to get shot over fast food and it wasnt even processing that this guy could actually do it
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:46:28 â„– 14596357 [Quote]
>>14596331 community is the wrong word, it was like a game not a community
Bernd 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:47:00 â„– 14596360 [Quote]
>>14596331 Just don't do that stuff. Except doxxing pedos that's gemmy
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:47:58 â„– 14596367 [Quote]
>>14596320 diddyblvd is willing to kill a million people for just 25 cents 🥀🥀
Mexiaryan 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:48:02 â„– 14596368 [Quote]
>>14596360 i wasnt even directly involved with it, i was just telling about a soyjak op that happended that i watched
Mexiaryan 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:48:40 â„– 14596371 [Quote]
>>14596368 on this note, i'm not exactly sure on how to stop, its kind of obessive, i just always do something stupid
like im self sabotaging
even at work, i sometimes slip up and start talking about the history of the klan (even tho i hate them)
Hunky Twink Sex Machine 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:48:51 â„– 14596373 [Quote]
>>14596349 maybe humor to cope with it o algo fuggen jerdee
Jager 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:50:24 â„– 14596393 [Quote]
>>14596373 not sure, since i dont really like funny things and never make jokes.
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:52:02 â„– 14596411 [Quote]
>>14596393 This may sound gay but have you tried therapy
Fartycuck 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:53:38 â„– 14596429 [Quote]
>>14596411 no, and therapy would either 1. put me on SSRI which would give me a lobotomy
or MKUltra me
Jackob 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:53:44 â„– 14596431 [Quote]
>>14596201 (OP) i know my situation is nowhere near as bad as yours, as i had two loving parents growing up, but i also underwent a big loss of empathy during my transference from childhood to adolescence (around age 12-14). its not just that it was around the period i started using 4cuck and watching gore a lot, sending it to my friends for gegs, but because i started to realise that most people who call themselves your friends arent your friends at all. whenever somebody would act unjustifiably cruel to me at school, nobody would ever stick up for me, not the people who i spoke to throughout the day and in my free time, not the teachers nor any other classmates. i think a key difference is that for foids, theyre really open with this and its viewed as an actual problem, but if youre a man getting picked on and physically and verbally hurt is just considered a rite of passage. all it did for me was make me insanely resentful of everyone and everything and i stopped feeling empathy for anybody outside of my immediate family, save for very few exceptions, mainly some videos of white kids getting beaten and bloodied by niggers i saw on /gif/.
< when you realise nobody has your back, its easy to start viewing them cynically and with contempt. if anybody who wouldn't stick up for me when i was hurt got hurt themselves, why would i intervene for them? the mindset goes for people on the street too, as they rarely if ever step in when terrible things happen. i could type more on this but this feels more like something for a slowburn board like
>>>/r9k/ so ill leave it here, o algo. hope things get better for you OP
Slitherjak 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:55:04 â„– 14596449 [Quote]
And people still defend gore and say it's okay. I would argue this is worse than porn
>>14596431 Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:55:32 â„– 14596455 [Quote]
>>14596422 Sadly you can't really link anything outside the soysphere
Slopjak 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:56:14 â„– 14596459 [Quote]
holy tl;dr thread
Woahjack 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:56:15 â„– 14596461 [Quote]
>>14596422 irc.soyjak.st
^^^^^^^^^^^^ Retard 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:56:22 â„– 14596462 [Quote]
>>14596371 Have you tried being self away every minute? Like checking if you are conscious. This way you can stop yourself
Mexiaryan 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:56:36 â„– 14596463 [Quote]
>>14596431 I get what you mean, I have my siblings who I'd stick up for and I'd likely even intervene if I saw somebody in danger but that's because of something like natural.
I have to reason that because all humans are made in the Image of God, they have a right to life, aggressing against those rights warrant response, and you have a social responsibility to defend rights.
And I do have good parents, its just they fight a ton
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:56:42 â„– 14596465 [Quote]
>>14596462 Being self aware every minute turns you into a schizo
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:57:53 â„– 14596478 [Quote]
>>14596462 I've tried and its probably part of the problems
because like issue is, the cycle often goes like this
and than people are like "why are you hiding everything you say?"
Rupturejak 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:57:56 â„– 14596479 [Quote]
>>14596465 No it doesn't. When you're on autopilot it's chatgpt activities.
Soytan 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:57:59 â„– 14596480 [Quote]
bump
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:58:51 â„– 14596488 [Quote]
>>14596478 Retard mindset, I never heard anyone say this
Glowie 12/28/25 (Sun) 18:59:40 â„– 14596495 [Quote]
>>14596488 this was 50% of the reason i got exiled from the last GC btw
Rapeson 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:00:11 â„– 14596499 [Quote]
Try to implement a checking process before something goes into the outside world
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:01:02 â„– 14596509 [Quote]
>>14596499 I've quit every single thing where i have an account because of this self-destructive pattern but since i do homeschooling + can't relate to anyone at work or church, it's left me kind of isolated which i fear makes the issue worse
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:02:31 â„– 14596526 [Quote]
>>14596514 whenever i have an issue, i normally go to ChatGPT and kind of talk to him, but i was paranoid that if i told him about my lack of empathy the glowies would try to psy op me
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:03:42 â„– 14596547 [Quote]
>>14596520 I dont think im schizo, im just paranoid
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:04:51 â„– 14596570 [Quote]
>>14596509 So implement a checking process to prevent this just try to be ultra conscious around people and not say more than needed
Nophono 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:05:34 â„– 14596579 [Quote]
>>14596570 i tend to do this at church, but it still leaves me in the hole of having no friends
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:05:45 â„– 14596582 [Quote]
same with when i volunteer ^ i just don't talk much
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:07:04 â„– 14596594 [Quote]
meant to bump
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:19:32 â„– 14596719 [Quote]
And while this will sound stupid . I worry partially im losing like what makes a person
Nulljak 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:19:57 â„– 14596725 [Quote]
>>14596579 What hobbies do you have
Femjak 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:21:06 â„– 14596749 [Quote]
>>14596719 That can be restored. When you back away from bad content and spend time with good people or read wholesome books it comes back
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:22:40 â„– 14596768 [Quote]
>>14596725 My hobbies are
1. Walking
2. Reading mostly theology and political theory
3. This board
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:29:05 â„– 14596888 [Quote]
>>14596201 (OP) You dont nessicarily need to feel the other person's emotions to be empathetic at all. All it takes is a basic understanding of why people have the emotions they do. The ability to not get bothered by other people's trauma can actually be a very good thing that can enable you to help others. I dont think its a bad thing at all
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:33:19 â„– 14596941 [Quote]
i'm really sorry this happened to you OP, this is the prime example of an abusive household<sympathy space
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:35:33 â„– 14596966 [Quote]
>>14596941 I do really enjoy nature and thats why i walk outside an hour a day.
Like, i try to emulate St. Francis, but it seems quite impossible when he was so empathetic and close to God. Like, St. Francis was the polar opposite of all I am,
Soyak 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:35:42 â„– 14596968 [Quote]
>>14596888 I had not thought of it this way
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:37:50 â„– 14596998 [Quote]
>>14596966 well i can't say i know anything about st. francis or your religious views, but don't feel pressured to act a certain way with the belief that it will make you happy; being yourself is really the only way to be comfortable in your own skin
Nate 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:41:11 â„– 14597030 [Quote]
>>14596968 slight correction on my part, empathy is feeling the other persons emotions first hand, sympathy is understanding why someone would feel a certain way but not sharing the emotions. regardless, you dont nessicarily need to feel their emotions to be caring or emotionally intelligent is what i was trying to get across. it doesnt mean you're less of a human, just that you've been through more, and there's nothing wrong with that
Aryan 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:41:54 â„– 14597048 [Quote]
>>14596998 Well, one of the books that has a major impact on me was St. Francis of Assisi by GK Chesterton
Since he is almost a polar opposite, and objectively one of the greatest Christlike men in the world, i figured it'd be good to strive to be like him
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:50:48 â„– 14597153 [Quote]
>>14597048 are u from an esl country
Slopjak 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:52:36 â„– 14597168 [Quote]
>>14597153 No I just type odd.
ElPerro 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:53:11 â„– 14597176 [Quote]
>>14597168 do you feel the world is unfair to you?
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:55:28 â„– 14597212 [Quote]
bvmo
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:56:36 â„– 14597228 [Quote]
make friends and then kill them all to learn empathy
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 19:57:43 â„– 14597242 [Quote]
you have become desensitized
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 20:03:39 â„– 14597364 [Quote]
>>14597176 No, I actually think the world is functioning quite normally and i'm the one with the issue
Fingerboy 12/28/25 (Sun) 20:05:45 â„– 14597398 [Quote]
>>14597364 No you aren't the one who's at fault. There is no need to needlessly blame yourself for a lot of things. A lot of people, if they were in your place, they wouldn't perform as well as you and would easily give up.
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 20:06:00 â„– 14597402 [Quote]
Marge I didn't supersage wtf
Chud 12/28/25 (Sun) 20:11:19 â„– 14597462 [Quote]
>>14597398 quote has this nameroll that automatically super sages the thread if you roll fingerboy