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Am I fucked? I have less than 1 real month of school left and I have 1 person who I think I will realistically still be in touch with after it ends.

I have a couple "friends" but they're more just people I orbit around to stave off boredom, there isn't a connection. I had 1 other close friend until last month but I had to cut him off for exposing himself as a psychopath.
Nobody seems to dislike me but basically none of them will go out of their way to talk to me either.
Since I'm socially inept, what are some aryan hobbies to distract myself with. I already do things like play vidya, read and go outside, give something interesting.

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>>85192 (OP)
>school
I only kept in touch with one person after high school. That's fine
<reddit
You should go to college to make new friends

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>>85196
making friends on college is impossible unless you are in a dorm. just a heads up

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>>85199
ev&doe I made friends through my classes and shit. you have to actually make an effort to deepen the friendship, ask them if you want to go grab food together after class or something

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it really depends on how easily you get lonely
what'd you cut off the psychopath for?

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>>85199
im probably heading to dorms, i thought it would be a lot easier to make friends if i see the same people daily and can share food with them and invite them over to play games 'n shieeet
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>>85201
I made some posts about it before, but the psycho manipulated some random girl that was a friend of a friend into liking him, sexually assaulted her while she was drunk and then dumped her by insulting her. He hid all of this from everyone else. He then told me about it only because other people stopped being his friend when they found out and wanted support. I'm a person with a strong sense of morality (moralfag) and I really don't like people messing with the feelings of others. The nigger had no attraction to her whatsoever, he spoke of his whole relationship with the girl as a test for if he was single by his own choice or if he was unable to get a girl, refuses to apologise to her out of his pride and feels no guilt for anything he did. I stopped interacting with him because I don't want anything to do with a person who treats others as an experiment
<reddit space
I feel lonely as is, and it gets worse during winter. I can manage doe, I've dealt with it for a couple years already.
>>85200
I'm not terrible at communicating and do plan to join a bunch of clubs to try and meet more people. Would you recommend any activities in particular that help deepen friendships

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>>85213
btw the psycho is a massive gooner and faggot too, if you are about to leak about me dropping a friend because of how he treats women

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do you like music? trying to learn an instrument has helped for me

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>>85215
yh, i tried a couple instruments years ago but didn't enjoy it much because i didn't really listen to music. If i try again I'll probably learn the accordion

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Find friends at work. Most of the people you knew in lower education will move to a new place of work or study. So just focus on the people around you here and now. I lost contact with most of my old friend circle but I bounced back by becoming more active in my local hobby shop and nearby association (more like club, but is main concern is supporting people with mental health issues but I just visit it for the karoke and group activites)

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>>85192 (OP)
I have no friends and im mostly fine with it
its just a state of mind
Try walking it off

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I dont know anyone from highschool, ive been in college 1 year and ive made more connections at Church than here
nevER stress.

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>>85192 (OP)
Realistically, you weren't gonna stick around with anyone from your school even if you were the social type. Most people at school are too absorbed in their own thing to put interactions with their friends at the pinnacle of importance, unless they are the obnoxious class clown that's severely overcompensating for something.
And the fact that you actually had the courage to cut off that psychopath in your life even if that person was particularly close to you means that you have standards about other people which are non-negotiable, and that's a good thing. The alternative is letting people in your life willy-nilly and having them ruin everything you value because sitting in silence is uncomfortable. You decided that you'd rather be sane than comfortable. That is a sign of integrity which the right people value.
The truth is that the "socialization" you did at school was never meaningful and not because you did it wrong. Everyone was there because they were born at roughly the same time and lived in roughly the same place. As such, there wasn't any choice to be at school and to interact with the people around you. You couldn't just opt out of school in order to avoid them.
If you plan on going to university, the people around you would have chosen to be there. They would have chosen to pick up knowledge and skills, they would have chosen their classes and their professors, and would have chosen to hang out with you or anyone else outside of their classes. Yes, there is still randomness with the interactions that you do have, but it's less extreme than what you experienced before.
And even if you don't go to university and decide to do something else, you're an adult now, meaning that you have agency over your own life. Adulthood brings a lot of responsibilities, but also a lot of freedoms. The people you let in your life is one of those freedoms. Cherish it.

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>>85233
thanks 'teen, this helps. The guy was my best friend for the last 7 years. Even though it was a hard decision it was necessary and I don't regret cutting him off. I've had the philosophy for the last 5 years or so that it is better to be alone than to be surrounded with people that you don't care about, that don't care about you, and that are bad people in general. I don't hate being alone, but it is a fact that humans are social animals and having a close friendship with someone makes your life better.
I hope that I will find people I enjoy spending time with in uni/work. What you say makes sense, I should have more in common with them.

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Most people split up after HS. Out of the four in our inner friend group (although our school had a very good social climate where most people were on good footing and friendly), none of us have any regular contact any more. Mainly because one studies in another city and the others live on the other side of town.
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The irl friends I hang out with the most come from hobbies, and it's where I meet most new friends. So don't worry about it, just make sure to do something productive and interesting irl and you'll evenetually find other people who do the same.

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>>85259
I forgot to recomend hobbies, whoopsies. Mens' choirs can be gemmy, especially if it consists of guys your age. Some mens' clubs are also nice meeting places as long as it isn't filled with too few young guys and too many old, if they have a common theme (like religion) it would make it easier for a social sperg to get in. Pool/biljard, darts, sports like sprinting, model painting.



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