>>85168 (OP)Whether or not you leave her depends on if your goals of the relationship still align with hers
Ten years is a long time, and the goals you had in mind and agreed upon initially can drift apart
For example, you probably dislike the idea of being seen as a faggot. If (You) want to outwardly present as a boy-girl relationship, then its a major misalignment of your desires
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