/r9k/ - ROBOT9999

for me what really helped was to do an activity nearly every day, or be around people/hang out with friends very often. doing activities every day makes you appreciate life a little more and distracts you. doesn’t have to be anything crazy. go on a hike, go to the library, go see some local live music, see what’s going on in your area

I've come to learn that my environment strongly dictates my inner thoughts. If I'm displeased with where I am in life, that will soak into my other possibly unrelated thoughts. Do everything in your power to control the external factors that bother you, and eventually your inner mind will follow. Don't like where you live? Move. Don't like how you look? Go to the gym. You feel like shit? Eat better food. Don't have money? Learn a skill or hone in on what skills you already have. Ruminating on thoughts is possibly the worst thing you can do, fill your mind with goyslop.

>>83516
Another thing I forgot to add. Don't beat yourself up over being sad for like a day or two. You have to accept that you VVILL have days where you feel like shit. If you accept that, those days will feel way less bad. In the end, things have a way of working themselves out.

>>83516
For me the hardest part with this realisation is that I live in the shithole of the UK. The weather is dreadful, and I live in the south, I have no clue how anybody in the north lives. It doesn't help that I'm a mutt who spends most of their summer in the Aegean, so I get to see the sun and sea every year just to lose it again and go back to the shithole UK.

Like you said, you have to find what bothers you and change your life accordingly. I feel like my life is stuck in a loop of school and home, so i dedicate tike every week where I will spend some time in a park to remind myself that there is a life outside of the concrete. Paying attention to what you eat is also important, I wouldn't want to add being fat as a worry and eating better makes you mentally healthier too.

In terms of general guidance for what to do about depression, honestly it still hasn't gone away for me. The last two years were rough on me and I did have some cases of suicidal thoughts and mentally cracking where I would just cry myself to sleep. I kinda realised that nothing was going to happen if I stayed like that, and I managed to go through this winter without suicidal thoughts which is when i normally get the worst, though ive been feeling very melancholic throughout. I graduate this year and I realised that in my 18 years of life i have one, maybe two people that will not only spend time with me but also initiate a conversation, which is my definition of an actual friend. I will probably not see any of my other classmates a year after I graduate. Focus on making future plans, or long term goals that you enjoy and can look forwards to. I bought a skateboard recently and it helped with the melancholy feeling, at least it gives me a long term goal of getting better at that and it gets me outside the house. go hiking or camping maybe. Whatever you do, don't lock yourself indoors and live online, thats a fast track to feeling like shit for me.

You VVILL get better, try to find new things to do or try to make your life more interesting. Monotony really gets to me and makes me feel like im an animal with no mind of its own, best way to fight that is to do random things that caught your interest to add variety

>>83542
Appreciate it UKGQD, ive had similar thoughts on self improvement but it feels much better hearing advice from someone else

Exercise and try to not think about "going back to how you were" back when you were happy, make a new version of yourself thats happy and content with life even if you cant find any comfort in it at the moment

>>83584
Also put yourself out there, try meet new people, I've gone to bars myself before just to chat and potentially make friends I can so stuff with, im not sure what the social life is like in your country but in ireland it revolves around meeting new people in pubs lol

>>83585
how do you make friends in pubs, I only ever see oldfags sitting and watching whatever sport is on the telly or groups of friends. Also how do you approach a complete stranger and start a conversation with them, I probably have Assburgers so it just sounds super awkward to do that
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I do agree that meeting new people is good though, I'm very happy that I finally go to uni from school this year because another year with the same golems would make go insane. A new environment and group of people is great as a fresh start, it can really help drag you out of the pits mentally.