/r9k/ - ROBOT9999

and i wont download a dating app until my chest protrudes farther than my belly;
if I'm not everythingmaxxed beforehand I fear I'll run out of local options without getting the chance of a date

>>wait for the right one to come along bro
>>you need to date hundreds of women before you find one to marry bro
>Its one or the other normieniggers. I been meeting zero women that I could realistically ask out, and they say you need to date many, it's over.
The more you date, the bigger the probability of finding "the one". It's not like gambling where all odds are against you. There's enough people in the world for you to find someone.
>>just be content with being alone for a little while bro
>Meanwhile you have been in and out of romantic relationships since you were 14, you still find people to date with ease, I can't get my foot in the door apparently, I don't even have the opportunity to gamble.
Why assume what the other person will say instead of thinking about what they're saying? Seems to me like you need to work on your confidence. The only way to not be anxious is to just DO THE THING. If you feel like your friend is into you, ask her out. You could be wrong and get on with your life, or succeed. Don't assume what the other person will say because you're usually none the wiser and you don't live in her head.
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As for "just being alone for a while", sometimes people aren't ready for relationships, I know I'm not. I still have a lot to work to do before I could show off to someone. Work on your mentality and your self-esteem, then work on your external appearance and your interests. You don't have to be perfect at it, you just have to be mentally stable enough to handle the harsh parts of love.
>>just talk to her like a friend bro
>Normienigger cant comprehend that I'm already doing this but I can't escalate. If youre a friend to her first then asking her out means you lose that clique most of the time. Being a stranger first means she will turn you down all the time (and still I'll be a victim of gossip). And then another dude will square up with me for hitting on "my girl, bro"
Where do you find women, may I ask? You won't find a lot of emotional depth in a club for example.
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For friends, they unfortunately come and go. Whether by your doing or not. If you want to minimize the risk of being rejected by your friend, you could look at social cues. Does she willingly want to spend time with you, or is she making up excuses every time you ask? Stuff like that. Don't worry if you don't notice it, unless you're a turboautist it usually takes a bit of learning to notice.
>Zero women at church, and no way forward at college it seems.
The church thing is only told on here. No one else, irl or online, will tell you this. Since most women nowadays are leftist politically, they reject religion (or at least ones that are not related to shitholes in the news headlines).
College isn't any better. From anecdotal evidence from relatives I know that it houses the most libtarded smug assholes you could ever imagine. YMMV doebeit.
>So the actual question, is giving all your data to MatchGroup the only way? Frankly I'm in denial of this because I don't want dating app slopware on my phone.
NO. Dating apps are made for people who want to fuck for 10 minutes and leave. Look anywhere else but there if you want a social connection. Travelling is a better option at that point.
>>83339
>and i wont download a dating app until my chest protrudes farther than my belly;
>if I'm not everythingmaxxed beforehand I fear I'll run out of local options without getting the chance of a date
Lastly, I must mention one very important thing:
NEVER BELIEVE THE BP. NEVER. DON'T FOLLOW IT, DON'T ENGAGE WITH IT, DON'T INTERACT WITH SOMEONE WHO BELIEVES IN IT.
It's a retarded ideology based of a few harsh truths that will only destroy the remaining part of you that was attractive. Not everything in life is about looks, and if it does matter in a place/community you're in, then they're obsessed materialist retards who'll never achieve anything in life.
Anyone can be perfect, but no one can be you. Cherish and protect that.

>>83348
take da beepee saar

>>83348
>Seems to me like you need to work on your confidence.
I'm not insecure, the risk/benefit analysis just doesn't add up, I really doubt they would go out with a stranger and I could get reprimanded or gossiped o algo.
One time my friends were hyping me up or something. I had the boldness to ask if one of the girls they knew was single. Turns out, she was 3 years younger than me, and I got accused of being a pedophile, FML. I really can't tell a woman's age at a distance, I would never "approach" where there could be minors.
>sometimes people aren't ready for relationships,
I am
>Work on your mentality and your self-esteem,
My mentality is better than 90% of normies guaranteed (or am I misunderstanding you?) and I don't hate myself consciously anymore.
>then work on your external appearance and your interests
I play the guitar, speak a second language, skin care & dress nice, all for myself and not female validation mind you.
>mentally stable enough to handle the harsh parts of love.
i spent half my childhood mentalhealthbaiting to justify my traits that are really just autism, but I really couldn't come into any mental illness if I tried. I'm very stable and patient. My identity is not wrapped up in women.
>Where do you find women, may I ask?
University. Not meeting any in class. Met some in a fraternal organization related to my career, but they look wayward to me. Met a few in a survival club, but theyre taken and the gender ratio of the club is genuinely 20:1 (counted and fact checked by Snopes; not hyperbolic)
>you could look at social cues. Does she willingly want to spend time with you,
Nope, not getting any social cues. And I do pick up on them.
>it houses the most libtarded smug assholes
my college is basically a technical school turned university, the guys there are pretty chuddy, there isn't much facilitation of interaction between myself and the general female population but on my little interaction, at least half of them seem honest. Not a lot of colored hair but still plenty of skimpy outfits in warm weather. FYI there are almost twice as many male than female students.
>NEVER BELIEVE THE BP.
I'm not BLACKEDpilled
>Look anywhere else but there if you want a social connection. Travelling is a better option at that point.
And this is the sapient question. If I can't have dating apps or college dating, what are my options? I already asked my mom to arrange me a marriage and she couldn't help me lol. And passportmaxxing looks overrated to me aside from being able to live for cheaper. I don't think "a more traditional place" really changes people's behavior in the 21st century. And how do you think the gringo sperg should charm the latinequises o algo when money is not the problem initially.

>>83348
>Where do you find women, may I ask
Not OP, but to add to this, where do you genuinely supposed to meet new people, not just women, but people. I used to to have normie friends and meeting new people was easy, normalfags would always bring some randoms they knew, although most women they brought looked at me as some joke at best, but now as I have fucked all of my relationships I only talk to my blood relatives. Currently I go work, not meeting any potential friends or gf based on my work, not much interaction going on there, my only hopes is when I get back to collage for a year to finish degree, then I'll be forced to constantly be nearby the same group of people, if I can't get a gf or a new set of normie friends in that 1 year I'm fucked. Outside of school, collage and work, where are you supposed to meet new people?
>Reddit space
I is ESLGOD, how could you tell?

>>83338 (OP)
I hate both the manosphere and woman nature, what does that make me

>>83402
that makes you an ultra blake pilled inkwell

>>83398
OP of the post you're responding to. As much as I'd like to give positive advice, this one seems to be the exception
>Public places
People are so attached to their phones that there is no way in hell you could even have a conversation unless your luck is INSANELY high. You are competing with a machine made by mega corporations to get as much user engagement as possible. It's the literal form of the nuclear bomb vs. coughing baby meme.
>Clubs
People go there to fuck and get shitfaced. You're not getting a deep relationship on there.
>School, college
Actually possible if you either play your cards right or make a persona, depending on who you want to be friends with. The former is genuinely better, but you may end up befriending actual FNF gooners. The latter is for people who hate themselves enough to lie about who they are.
>Work
Also depends, but this time everyone looks for themselves, so chances are even slimmer than in school. There is no social standard to belong in a group, all you have to do as a worker is to do a good job. There may also be a massive age gap, so you'd end up working with people who have kids or sometimes even grandkids.
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>but now as I have fucked all of my relationships I only talk to my blood relatives.
What the hell did you do/say? The only thing I can imagine is you being a or being too chuddy one day

>>83398
Fuck your blood relatives

People say go out to public events o algo but I dont think single young women are gonna execute on that idea either. Gotta run a massive psyop to get them to go outside.

>>83402
A chud.

>>83407
Now I only have friends from school and i haven't experienced other places enough to really have a good standpoint, but if you look into why school works you could maybe try to find similar places. The only reason why even a loser chud who isn't insanely extroverted is able to make friends in school is because :
- school is boring as shit
- you aren't allowed to just leave or go on your phone
- you are forced into close proximity with random people repeatedly

This combination means that people are desperate to do something more entertaining than school, have very limited choices in what to do, being daydreaming, talking to someone or maybe doodling, and cannot pick who they can talk to, they are stuck with the people around them. This means that out of boredom and lack of other choice people will talk to those around them at least a little bit. With a lot of classes, and seating plans changing, this conveyor belt of forced interaction means that eventually the vast majority of people, including the socially inept or those in niche interest groups, will find somebody to bond to or talk to.


The only place I can think of other than school that could be like this is work, except people are incentivised to actually do the main objective of the place because they are getting payed, people are mostly likely older than you by a noticeable amount and they have an excuse to ignore you by saying they need to get back to work

maybe hobby clubs could help, has to be something you are autistically interested in, this ensures you have at least one talking point with the people there, and by doing something together you have something to distract from awkward moments that isn't pulling out your phone


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>I play the guitar, speak a second language, skin care & dress nice, all for myself and not female validation mind you.
Start making videos or posting about interesting stuff online, looksmax and curate your voice to be perfect for speaking.
>How do I know what to make?
Just copy. Don’t be ashamed it’s the best thing you could do. Find someone else doing a trend you like and (obviously don’t do it word for word) and take ideas and make them into your own
>Im losing motivation, they foids don’t care
Make it your passion instead, sounds really faggy but unless you have better ideas to meet women without them being insane alcoholics or party girls, please tell me. In this way you’re pretty much advertising yourself online. Plus if you can branch out and make friends you can insert yourself into other groups like a parasite and advertise yourself there. Women love fame, even if it’s small.
>Has this worked for you?
I’ll admit, not totally. I did do a few videos before and had women post in the comments but I was a little pisscel and didn’t like the attention so I quit.