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Something I've observed with women is that there are basically 3 categories of ways they are attracted to men, which I will list. The line between the points two and three is blurry with a lot of overlap, but they are distinct things.
One: Attraction to Wealth and Stability
If a man has money, a nice job, and a house, he will get girls more easily. This isn't exactly regular emotional attraction like the other categories, but more a logical calculation on the part of the female. She will choose a man in part based on his material situation. Thoughever it's not just his money but his personality also plays a role here too. If a guy seems level-headed, calm, non-dangerous, then he makes for a better potential long-term partner.
Notice how I say long-term, that's important. This category mostly only matters for her consideration of marrying a man and is not something she'd care about as much for a short-term relationship or hookup, again because it's not something based on emotion. With that said there is a SMALL emotional/primal aspect to this form of attraction. If a rich guy buys some girl cool stuff or takes her on rides in his expensive car or yacht or whatever, it CAN create a sort of association between fun things and the man in her head, boosting her attraction to him. It can also make a man appear more high-status which also boosts his rating. Sacrificing his own wealth on her behalf can also be seen as a gesture of him caring about her or whatever which can also help.
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Two: Romantic Attraction
This is essentially the feeling of having a crush or being in love. The most important thing here is a man's personality. If a guy is funny, easy-going, shares some mutual interests, etc, then a girl is more likely to develop feelings for him. If you get along with a girl well and sort of vibe together then the chance of her getting a crush on you is high. Being nice/kind to a girl will also contributes to this, but by nice I do not mean being timid or being her doormat simp. Of course looks play a role here (only retards would deny this) but it is not the most important thing, your personality is.
Something important to note here is that even if a girl has a crush on you, if you wait too long to make a move and ask her out it tends to fade over time. Then she will see you as a friend and will not be as attracted to you. This is a major difference between men and women since men will often still see female friends as potential romantic partners but the inverse is usually not true (there are exceptions). If you like a girl make sure to make a move early on.
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Three: Sexual AttractionThis type of attraction is often ignored/dismissed by blue pill redditor types, while incels tend to overvalue this thinking it's the only thing that matters.
Women's sexual attraction to men is in fact heavily based on his looks. In particular his facial structure and his height. Other things like his body shape/build or hair or whatever are less important (unless he's extremely fat or something). And yes, dick size does matter, women will judge you for it, but they can still be sexually attracted to a guy who doesn't have a big dick. You are probably not as ugly as you think you are. You can also improve your looks.
It is not just looks though but his personality and how he carries himself. If a guy has nervous or awkward body language it will decrease sexual attraction. Or if his voice is high-pitched or annoying. If you can't maintain eye-contact with her she'll think you're a weak beta. This is basically what the ick is, i.e. judging a man on random small ways he moves and speaks. If you're autistic then that's a death sentence even if you're hot. Most of you are not autistic even if you think you are.
Women who select guys primarily based on sexual attraction tend to be sluts with high body counts btw, if that wasn't obvious.
Another thing some consider black-pilling or whatever is that women are sexually attracted to dangerous, unstable, and impulsive men. Most girls would think it's hotter to get fucked by a criminal than some boring office worker. It's common for guys high in category 3 to be low in category 1 for this reason (and vice versa). Women classify these guys as hookup material but wouldn't want to marry them. Meanwhile guys with money who are really boring and ugly will often get a wife who either cheats on them or never wants to fuck (or both). Pic rel is a study on teenage girls which shows more attraction to violent boys for short term relationships.
https://www.nature.com/articles/s41599-019-0262-5 â„–83058[Quote]
I mentioned before there's an overlap between the second and third categories. What I mean is that if a woman is not initially very sexually attracted to a man but as she gets to know him and start to get feelings for him, her sexual attraction to him will also grow. This is actually very common cause a lot of girls consider the majority of men to be ugly when first looking at them. The inverse of this is also true. If a woman is initially sexually attracted to a man she will be more likely to develop romantic feelings for him (halo effect).
The importance of these 3 attractions to a specific woman can also vary per her phase in her period cycle. During ovulation women tend to seek out men who are more masculine/dangerous than they normally do. If their partner is low in genetic fitness (i.e. he's ugly, short, weak) then women's attraction to other men will spike during ovulation which leads to cheating. See pic rel.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1559901/It's been theorized that males with lower genetic fitness will compensate by accumulating resources to share with the female. Research in primates as shown that females will try to get the best of both worlds by selecting males with more resources as long-term partners, while attempting to secretly cheat on them during ovulation with males with more genetic fitness to ensure superior offspring. I cannot find the fucking study I'm talking about but just trust me bro this is a real thing.
Also, women who are on birth-control tend to be more attracted to more feminine men cause it affects their hormones. There have been cases where a woman dates a feminine guy long-term and when she goes off birth control so they can have a kid she's suddenly no longer attracted to him. I've personally met two girls I knew were on birth control and they both had gay-presenting boyfriends. If you're dating a girl ask her if she's on birth control early and tell her to get off if she is to see if she remains attracted to you in her natural state.
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bumo up go up
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>WORDSWORDSWORDS
ok I so I have to be rich, charismatic and hot got it
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>>83062it depends how autistic though
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>>83059How tall are you negro
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Didn't mean t sage
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>>830805'10 thoughever I know a 5'6" guy with a hot gf thoughever he's also extremely social/extroverted/charismatic and stuff
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>>83082Honestly you don't sound like an inkwell and more just a guy who didn't date until late teens, who happened to be lonely before than. That's almost every "incel" who ascended.
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>>83083Exactly. le unoriginal content
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good thread OP
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words words words
looks money status
words words words
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i actually read every single molecule and while it has a lot of interesting points it does not change anything for me. after you said autism is basically a death sentence and knowing that i am officially diagnosed i knew it was over. your way of dividing everything into 3 categories shows a deep understanding of the topic, how the different aspects overlap and influence each other, and how nuanced the whole thing really is. i still think that just as people can make up for being unattractive by building resources and social leverage, its possible to make up for autism too if someone is physically attractive. sadly i do not have the looks or status to compensate for my autism, so that option is completely out of reach for me. on the other hand, the part about incels overvaluing sexual attraction was very high iq too. its essentially a coping mechanism - since the first option did not get them a girlfriend, they end up relying entirely on the third option to justify their worldview.
so it is ultimately about looks, money, status, personality, and neurotypicality
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the blackpill states that in the long term, sexual attraction is the most important factor. She may rationalize to herself that she’s into you for ‘money’ or ‘personality’ but at the end of the day, the primal, limbic brain desires more attractive men. This disparity leads to cheating, or relationships with an undesirable power imbalance.
People that cope with things like betabuxxing (money) or jestermaxxing (personality) are typically known as ‘oofy doofies’. At the end of the day, they may get a relationship. But it will be with someone that resents/doesnt respect them.
Thus is the brutal fate of the sub-8 male. Either, become a cuck, or stay single forever
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>>83152this is the gayest thing i've read today
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>>83160what’s so gay about it?
also
>no refutation â„–83184[Quote]
>>83152>>83161You think women have the same thought-process as men in selecting a partner, your idea of a relationship is a 'straight' grindr hookup
women dont work like that lil bro
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Ok, but how do I get her to peg me?
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>>83185stop being a faggot