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help me deal with this, please.
my gf was raped when she was 5-8 years old. because of this, she developed BPD.
i was her first kiss but i had to leave the country, so i cant rake care of her anymore.
Yesterday she ignored me for a full day and i exploded and said some.. nasty things about her.
i think about her (and her uncle) day and night. she told me before i blocked her that she decided on suicide (she has 2 attempts).
Help me. Im on the heights of despair. I want to die.

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im an autist with no friends online or otherwise. i have no one to talk about this with. its driving me insane.
if anyone wants to dedicate prayers, her name is Linnea.

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i keep thinking about this even in the few classes of stuff im learning after dropping out of school i zone out thinking of her being raped. when im walking home i make squints and cry thinking about it.
nothing i do will make the pain stopm i distract myself by eating garbage and playing videogames but its all worthless. my dad took notice and gave me meds after i told him i was hearing voices from the stress, but i dont want to take them.
please help me. i dont know what i do. i dont know who else to turn to.

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>>82315
Lord fauci please bless these people with eternal peace and love

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>>82319
this is very cruel

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>another nigga hooked up on a BPDemon
good thing you've already sort of left her. run and never look back

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Pray for her, and pray for mercy for yourself

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>>82314 (OP)
>>82316
>i zone out thinking of her being raped
wtf nigga
<fax space
I do have some good news: she likely wasnt raped
take brapzil for instance, with about 81000 rapes each year and a population of 213 million, which results in 380 rapes per million
lets multiply it by 20 (my estimate for your gf's age), which results in 7600 rapes per million, or an average of 0.76% chance of getting raped in 20 years
note that all these numbers are taken from rape central (brazil) if india published some statistics i'd use that, but its safe to assume wherever you live has less rape than brazil
in the usa, about 1.6% of the population has bpd, and 75% of those are women, which means 2.4% of women have bpd
if we assume all women who are raped develop bpd as a result, this would mean 0.76/2.4 roughly 31.7% of women with bpd, and likely far less for western nations, have been raped
however, in surveys 44%-80% of women with bpd report being csa'd, of course not all rapes are csa, but even if we're being generous and say half of them are, this leaves a 28%.-64%. discrepancy
in other words: over half the women with bpd who tell you they've been raped are lying
<but why?
one of the symptoms is separation anxiety
if she tells you she got csa'd, are you more or less likely to leave?
if she tells you she's going to kill herself, are you more or less likely to leave?
these lies arent malevolent, she just thinks that any small decrease in attention you give means you're abandoning her
<but she really did! (elaborate story)
if she really did experience something traumatic as a child, she'd be having an anxiety attack recalling it
it wouldnt have that much detail, in fact most of it would be unintelligible and incoherent
at some point she'd stop talking and hyperventilate while staring off at nothing and then contort as if getting punched in the stomach
nobaldi with childhood trauma, especially that severe, can tell you a whole lot of details while remaining calm and collected

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>>82338
I never did the math but I always assumed this. The one time I got one of them to give me details the "rape" was literally consensual non sex

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>bpd
run!!!! holy shit

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>>82338
Yep she's lying to you. Leave and never return to her

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>>82338
her uncle is in jail. i know for a fact it happened.

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>>82351
if he's in jail for molesting her thats good, the other half cant be lying too, after all.
I thought it was pretty weird when you said you thought about her uncle day and night, sounded pretty gay to me but this makes more sense
>i was her first kiss but i had to leave the country, so i cant rake care of her anymore.
so were you bf and gf? I'd advise against that.
People with bpd need a stable friend group moreso than one codependent. A relationship wont do either of you any good, really.
You should get her some (female) friends she can hang out with, preferably not too bitchy. then she wont need you anymore.

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just leave her if she dies she dies if she doesnt she doesnt live your life and just never stress abt her life is short no point in stressing over something so meaningless



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