>>78270 (OP)don't give up hope on improving, just focus on small steps towards an overarching goal that you want to achieve, but that goal is something entirely up to you to figure out
examples of SECA includes: working on physique, relationships, financial stability, an interesting job that balances good finance and security, making a family
but you should work on it in pieces rather than taking on the whole BBC at once, practice small, consistency is really the most important, if you miss one session of gym just go the next day