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Hello shardee, I am in need of advice in regards to my parents. Not sure if it's possible but I'll try
>Be me, 18
>Live with a chatty mother and a father I genuinely despise.
>Mom had therapy, so she's at least bearable to be with, but supports troons simply because some far-away cousin happens to be one, and WILL sperg out about "muh tolerance" and other shit.
>Dad is a person who is ALWAYS right, is painful to talk to if you aren't 100% on his side, and never bothers learning or trying anything new.
>Hate him enough that I never want to make him proud because he's an annoying ass about it.
>They both have an astounding ability to seep all the passion and joy from whatever hobby I could've had
>They basically treat my hobbies like I'm family tech support (which I actually am if you're wondering saar) and "request" that I use it for their gain
>For example, since I can draw well ever since I was younger, they wanted me to draw holiday cards for other family members. Birthdays, weddings, Fathers day, you name it.
>This, along with my mom's past need to share everything I was doing to our extended family, ended with me never sharing anything for literal years.
>Now what they know about me is either false or exaggerated.
>They try to listen in to what I'm doing at all times, and will absolutely remind me that I'm never safe in "my" home.
<reddit space because wordswordswords just for the backstory
My problem is that I'm very aspirational, and if I, say, want to play an instrument, I have to go through a mental charade of them circlejerking each other and never leaving me alone about it. What should I do 'teens?
>inb4 stop caring
I am trying but they can't shut the fuck up. It feels like the only way I can tell them to stop is if I make a massive argument about it.
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kill your entire family
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>>76068 (OP)Just become more successful than them and break contact lol
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kill them all, your entire extended family
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>>76068 (OP)I genuinely don't understand what you're talking about in this post
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OP is mad that his parents want to engage with his hobbies and talk about xheir son. You're their child, they will talk about your activities regardless. I could care less if you draw a bunch of festive cards, be happy you do it for family and not in a factory for some mutt halfway across the world to see. And ffs, obviously they arent going to stand by all of your chuddy beliefs, they are almost two generations apart from you so obviously that would be the case. Stop being a whiney bastard and appreciate your family.
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>>76068 (OP)>They basically treat my hobbies like I'm family tech support (which I actually am if you're wondering saar) and "request" that I use it for their gainrelatable. i remember my parents begging me to design stuff and weld just because i knew how to do that
>My problem is that I'm very aspirational, and if I, say, want to play an instrument, I have to go through a mental charade of them circlejerking each other and never leaving me alone about it. What should I do 'teens?they dont have any say in your aspirations. you have to either chase your opportunities or stay behind. keep fighting for what you want.
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OP you got to take a step back and appreciate what you have. Yes your parents wont be "freaking based!" but its because they are your parents with generic libshit views like everyone else their age just appreciate that they care about your gay little drawings and love you