>>71503 (OP)Okay I'll give you real advice.
Anonette, it seems like you are a kind hearted person since you care about other people not being with their love, and this also lines up with your reason for rejecting them being that you don't think it will last beyond high school. I think you might have a bit of OCD when it comes to romantic relationships (which is fair, since I suffer from this too) – if I am wrong you can say so.
<You must adjust your mindset. Accepting an offer to go on a date does not mean you are "dating them." That is only when you consistently see each other. Going on a date is not the same thing as getting into a relationship – in fact, dating is how you decide if you want to get into a relationship in the first place. So don't feel like you are committing to them if you say yes to a date. Get to know if they actually love you or if its something else. You also get to figure out if YOU like them back. At least then you can figure out what to do from there, since you have more information to work with.
(Just make sure they are also clear about this. If they offer to pay, and you reject them for a second date, they might feel bitter, but you can offset this if you gift them a little chocolate box or do something nice for them IDK.)
I think you're just suffering from perfectionism so i'm just giving you ideas how you can see accepting a date as not a marriage proposal but rather a trial stage.