/r9k/ - ROBOT9999

>>67636 (OP)
I don't know if this counts, but I had a girlfriend for about six months not long ago, but I already graduated highschool and this wasn't in any kind of school setting. We were both Christian so we never had sex, but it was nice to cuddle and kiss. I'm glad I got the experience, but even if I'm still a virgin I sometimes feel that I shouldn't have done any of that. That I shouldn't have kissed, cuddled, and touched her the way I did all for a woman that I wasn't meant to be with, it just feels kind of dirty. I could of saved all of that for a woman that truly loved me, but this is likely just me being paranoid. It's not your typical 'teenage love' scenario though since usually incels are thinking of sex. I'm content by myself and I was already decent at social interaction before her, albeit I'm autistic so I was never great at it.

For me I cannot say I missed out on it because I never experienced it.
It is like asking a blind person from birth if they regret not being able to see, they had no other option but to live like that.

I don't care if it's shit or ruins your life it's a story, a chapter, a lesson and part of your life to tell to someone later or atleast have it in your mind.

Personally I think everyone should have the right to experience it even doe most of us won't.

I started talking to girl for the very first time at 18, so already a legal adult. I took her on a first date during the summer, so after I was already graduated from high school. Then spent my whole first semester of college being anxious about seeing her again. Because for context, we never said we liked each other, never confirmed that we were bf/gf, we just texted a lot and would hang out during school and occasionally during the summer. Saw her again when I came back home for winter break, confessed my feelings and she confessed back, but we both agreed to not be official. Spent the next semester being depressed and holed up in my dorm room. I got over her eventually but spent most of the summer feeling awful and empty. Back at college this year I tried talking to another girl but it went nowhere.
So I got all the heartbreak of “teen love” and not even a kiss to show for it. I feel a bit better that I can save all that for someone really special, but at the same time I don’t and I feel worthless for not having checked those boxes and that I wasn’t confident enough to know and push for what I wanted. Besides what if I meet some girl, give her my firsts, and then we break up? Then I saved all that for nothing and I should’ve just been a “player” earlier on in life. I have way too much perfectionism to ever be comfortable in a relationship.
So for me, I *technically* had teen love, and as you can see it kinda messed me up. But if it had gone better I imagine it would’ve been awesome, since my brother (2 yrs younger) met his gf at the start of his jr year and they’re living the dream.

>>67649
I'm the guy in the first reply. I think it's better that nothing happened, because I feel like after you experience it and you almost inevitably fall out with your first girlfriend, then you just want to chase that high of the physical affections you get. I'm content by myself in the sense that I don't need a woman to help me with anything emotionally, I feel that I can handle everything myself, but now I have passionate urges and I feel like it's led me down to gooning more, but I've been better recently. And to reiterate, I feel awful for the hypothetical future girlfriend of mine knowing that my first kiss and all of that stuff won't be for her to claim, even if most people don't care much besides with virginity/sex partners. I really truly think this was better for you if you both thought you couldn't handle a relationship, but why did you two decide not to date?

>>67675
Don’t attack me for being a pedo but we never dated because I was a senior and she was a freshman when we started talking. It was fun to hang out and flirt at school but I think we both silently knew it was inevitably going to end, so we never made any big moves nor officialized anything.
Although because we were both immature (she was enamored by the fact a cool older guy was paying attention to her, and I was engaged as she was the first girl I got close with bc she basically threw herself at me), it lasted past the end of the school yr and into the summer, and then same thing again when I went to college, both of us kept in touch until I came back during break. Finally I couldn’t take the tension and just told her how I felt and she said she felt the same, but we finally had an honest conversation and decided we have two different lives now and this wasn’t gonna work.

>>67636 (OP)
Teen love just means a relationship that won't last into your early 20s, that's all it is. If grooming isn't involved then it's still just a fast track to being cheated on or negged into becoming a male feminist. The only people who care about this shit are shitting up /fit/ and instagram with vantaniggerhellcoal from ohio about canthal tilt and 'chad'

>>67682
Well that's a respectable decision on both of your parts. I'm especially impressed with how such a young girl had such maturity, foresight, and care for her future rather than chasing a romantic high. This was for the best for both of you. I think growing up without experiencing many modern hedonistic elements of our culture is a blessing, including teen "love". If God decides you get a woman, then so be it, but if not, then that's good too. There are many things you can do without the burden of someone else's interests getting in your way all of the time. You could accomplish many important things or master some kind of craft or hobby. It's not over bro.

>>67636 (OP)
Those same people will shill statistics saying that the average age for lossing your virginity is 13, so they are trying to push for premarital sex as an underage. Most of them are reddit atheist gooners that are semi rightwing adjacent, but in the end they hate traditionalism and want a commie state that cares about the issues of ugly and perverted people like them

Couldn't ypu enroll back into high-school as a fully grown adult?

Love is love, it can happen at any stage of life. I'm always endeared when I see elderly people in love. You know it's the real deal. Teenagers making out is just hormones speaking most of the time.

I've been thinking about this recently too. In short, I am 18 soon and I've been completely alone for a few years now.

I agree with chuddy 67709 that it's up to God anyways. I had a crush on a girl in high school when I was younger and it really just gave me a bunch of raisin to worry over instead of focusing on finding myself and acquiring skills. It's not inherently a bad thing I guess.

>say that if you didn’t then you’re forever socially stunted

If you find yourself worrying over this in the future, you should remember that it's (((someone else))) imposing an idea on you. Don't feed the demons.

it's overrated. ofc if you were a complete unsociable chud throughout high school (inb4 heckin 'zellig reference) you'll be cucked socially for most of life, but it's not like you're completely fucked bc u didn't have a gf in hs.

>>67636 (OP)
I regretted my teen love so there you go

>>67952
Same, she abused me

>>67636 (OP)
I had a relationship with a girl at 16, now I'm an incel chud freak anyways. I think missing out on teen love is more of a symptom than a cause.

My sister said it best.
>Dating before you even have a job makes no sense

>>67636 (OP)
no, im glad im missing out on it since most girls are just annoying obnoxious zoomette loud 'tok girls who are almost like the same robots obsessed with the newest niggerdance trend on 'tok, Grown up mature women with a developed brain are better, not the obnoxious monkeys
im 16 and in high school right now, dont think too nostalgically of high school since the reality is just full of annoying girls who you wouldnt even consider atleast in my expeirence

>>68765
>most girls are just annoying obnoxious zoomette loud 'tok girls who are almost like the same robots obsessed with the newest niggerdance trend on 'tok, Grown up mature women with a developed brain are better, not the obnoxious monkeys
spoiler alert: women don't actually mentally age beyond high school. what you're experiencing now is how they'll act forever.
you're also dealing with nostalgic for high school (even though you're negating it, you're still contending with it) when you are literally in it right now which means you've already giving up on yourself. your disinterest in girls is probably a cope for the fact you're not chad enough to bag one. and you're going to regret not acting more outgoing carefree when you get older.

>>67636 (OP)
>Some people act like it was the best thing they’ve ever experienced
there is no way some afro african zimbaboons actually say this pedophilic shit saars

teen love is full of nonsense drama so you shouldnt care

I have never had a girlfriend

I would have been better off not knowing the feeling of being loved than to have it for 3 years and lose it

negated or something