/soy/ - Soyjaks

Normally I don't do these posts but tonight I'm feeling too compelled and I feel like I can't sleep until I write these thoughts out. Navibug, who made that "my friend confessed" vid a couple days ago has privated it (along with her "aroace experience" video, and likely a couple others), after all the threats and harassment she's gotten on twitter and other sites. She's been pretty radio silent, but it doesn't stop ppl from continuing to leave nasty yt comments praising themselves for doxxing her into taking them down. I haven't checked for the posts off-platform and quite frankly I don't want to. I know seeing it will only worsen my own mental health, so I can't imagine how navi's feeling right now. She was my fav aroace creator and seeing this all go down has me feeling sick. It's scary, and it sucks. It sucks being a woman living in a world where people judge your every move and feel entitled to your body, your choices. Couple that with being ace and it's just nightmare fuel trying to navigate a world that doesn't care for or respect you.

Seeing all the terrible aphobic and misogynist comments from what were (likely) a bunch of hateful hetero men getting upset over a rejection is just another reminder of why so many ace women are afraid. The terrible irony here is how these ppl talk abt privacy/consent (which was valid), then turn around and brag abt doxxing, threatening, doing violating things *beyond* what possible harm the video could have done. They don't care for consent, they just want to regain control over what they've "lost". They felt insulted that a woman decided to make a video about an ex-friend who made her uncomfortable, and rather than be normal respectable ppl, decided the best course of action was to make her feel unsafe. All it takes is for you to do something "wrong" in their eyes and they will do anything to make you suffer for it. I hate it here, and I'm scared.