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classic dilema all frogposters face
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If this is something you genuinely want to disclose, the best approach is to separate three different things that can easily get tangled together:
Your pornography use.
Your sexual fantasies or kinks.
What you actually want in your real-life relationship.
Those are related, but they aren't the same.
If you're addicted to porn—or you feel it's compulsive—that's worth being honest about because it can affect intimacy, expectations, and trust. You might say something like:
"There's something personal I want to tell you because I don't want to hide it from you. I've been watching a lot of porn, to the point where I think it's become unhealthy for me. I'm working on understanding it, and I wanted to be honest with you."
If you also have fantasies involving interracial sex or dominance/submission dynamics, it's better to frame them as fantasies rather than expectations:
"Some of the porn I've watched has shaped some of my fantasies. I don't expect you to do anything you're uncomfortable with, but I wanted to be honest about what's been on my mind."
Regarding BNWO: if by that you mean you subscribe to an ideology rather than simply enjoying a consensual fantasy genre, recognize that this is likely to be much more concerning to many people. Porn categories are one thing; endorsing beliefs about racial hierarchies or race-based domination is another. If your interest is really a sexual fantasy, it's worth reflecting on whether you've started treating fantasy as ideology because of prolonged exposure to porn.
As for telling her you want her to have sex with a Black man ("take BBC"): you should be prepared for the possibility that she simply isn't interested. That's not something you can persuade someone into, and it's important not to present it as something she should do to satisfy your fantasy. If you bring it up, make it clear that her answer can be "no" without pressure:
"I have a fantasy that I feel embarrassed about sharing. I don't expect you to act on it, and I don't want you to feel pressured. I just want to be honest about what's been in my head."
If you're worried she'll break up with you, that's a real possibility. People have different comfort levels with pornography, compulsive porn use, open relationships, cuckolding fantasies, and race-related sexual themes. Being honest gives her the opportunity to make an informed decision, just as it gives you the opportunity to be in a relationship where you don't feel you have to hide parts of yourself.
One thing I'd encourage you to ask yourself beforehand is: What outcome are you actually hoping for? Are you mainly looking for honesty about your porn addiction? Are you hoping she'll understand a fantasy without acting on it? Or are you asking her to participate in that fantasy? Knowing the answer will help you have a clearer, less overwhelming conversation.
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poop won
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>>16644419 (OP)Just show her the bull and she'll immediately go to him