/soy/ - Soyjaks

I've been doing a lot of research on rape and I've come to the conclusion that it's "bad" but not as bad as people make it out to be. Each woman reacts to it in different ways, some are in fact traumatized by it but others are not, or they are not traumatized by the actual rape itself but by the confused/conflicting thoughts they have after. What I mean is they were not necessarily going to be traumatized by it, but their deeply ingrained conditioning they've been receiving since birth about how terrible and horrific rape is contradicts with their own lived experience of being raped, which leads to a sort of confused state of psychosis. Some of these women have spent most of their life sexually fantasizing about rape, and then when it happens they often orgasm from it (often experiencing particularly strong orgasms compared to normal), but then in a confused state following the event everyone treats them in an extremely coddling and sympathetic way as if their family was murdered for something combined with their own conditioning about "rape bad" leaves them in a confused state.

A lot of this conditioning they receive is not due to feminism like you may think, in fact it actually has patriarchal origins. The anti-rape conditioning began in late pre-historic times as the first civilizations emerged and women started to be treated like the property of her man. When a man's wife is raped he considers her damaged similar to if she fucked another man, though in this case he'll direct more of his hate to the rapist rather than the woman since it was not her choice in this case. He may also understand that she's likely to start viewing the rapist as the sexually dominant one who she's primarily attracted to rather than her husband.

You can think of the concept of the hijab in a similar way. If an alien were to visit Earth, their first thought when hearing of hijabs may be that it's a feminist concept, to "hide themselves from the male gaze and avoid rape" while the men are forced to look at women covered in sheets rather than seeing their natural beauty. But as we know it is the more patriarchal societies which have this practice, while more feminist ones allow women to walk around with very little clothing, which is what they naturally desire. I'm hopeful that as time progresses the feminists, particularly the younger feminists who are more accepting of their sexual desires, come to realize the lies about the so-called "horrors" women experience from rape, and eventually it comes to be normalized. The popularization of "book-tok" and sites like AO3 may help in this process.

I've done a bit of research on male-on-male rape and while it's too early to draw conclusions, my first impression is that it is more likely to be psychologically damaging but that may not be true for every case. Some men in situations like prison or the military take on a more submissive role (sometimes even taking on more feminine body language and vocal patterns) following being raped, which leads me to believe that it may not be such a terrible thing for these particular men. Perhaps if a man is already gay or bisexual then the act of being raped by another men is less likely to negatively affect him? More research on this topic is in order for a future date.

But anyways, I've began to compile a large amount of evidence for these claims from women's own accounts of being raped and the aftermath. At some point I will share this with you here on /soy/ though it's pretty far from being ready.