/soy/ - Soyjaks

Sorry to use this board for asking questions but I think it's a lot more practical than other imgboards these days. 4chan is basically dead and any real discussion has moved to altchans like this.

I live in a large US city. I'm mid 20s and I have pretty much been just trying to cold approach because I'm not originally from this city and I don't have a dedicated social circle, let alone one with women. I have been very good with first impressions but I consistently run into a recurring problem. After the girls realize I am actually not a mysterious vampire but literally just a nerd they get weirded out… Or at least I think that's what happened. I went on a study-date with a girl I had met by cold approach a few days earlier, she looked excited to see me. But I didn't know what to talk about so I just started talking about how I'm learning hacking and I started showing her cyberpunk image boards like Lainchan and I could literally hear her voice change from an excited girl to a babysitter who just found out the kid she's looking after is retarded :/

How do I go about meeting cute Internet subculture type altgirls irl or who live near me?
Where would they hang out? And if I were to create a discord server for my city or something how would I go about that to attract like minded people but not a complete sausage fest? I do not want to use dating apps because I know people just use them for hooking up and I want a real relationship.