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I never particularly cared if I was offensive. If someone acts like a retard I will call xim retarded. Coddling people hurst them in the end.
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I've never been coerced like this before. Is this common? I'm so scared and lost sisters. I need some perspective.
I'm a FTM to a 18mo sweet boy. He's my world and I'm taking care of him as a SAHM. I quit my high paying job because both my husband and I agreed it's best to let our son spend the first few years at home.
We've been having a dry spell but we're easing back to the routine. I'm agreeing to sex once a week, even though I don't want it whatsoever. It's like him using my body to masturbate, but the quickie only lasts a few mins so I let him have it.
Lately husband's mom is staying with us to help out, so husband gets more break and is having more "energy" for sex. He's demanding twice a week or sometimes even more. He said since he's paying for everything (food, housing, car stuff, baby stuff, I still pay for my own clothes and skincare) then I need to at least have sex with him. Otherwise we'd split finances and be roommates.
Most days I'm still completely exhausted that I absolutely detest sex. I only get 60 min free time before I go to sleep, why would I waste time in the most boring and painful sex?! I'd much rather space out in bed.
(We sleep in separate rooms; husband watches baby at night and picks baby up if he cries)
Tonight he marched into my room at 10:30pm asking for sex. We had sex just three days ago, and it was getting really late, so I suggested waiting until tomorrow night. He refused to leave and said he would sleep here if I don't give him sex. I said it's too late because I'm usually asleep by 11pm. He said it'll only take a few min.
I said when I'm winding down for sleep, I do not want sex at all. We can do it tomorrow at 9pm when baby falls asleep. He said we have to be spontaneous. So we kept arguing for 10 min and finally baby started crying (thank god) and he went back to baby room.
I felt like a victim… even though he's a good father, a reasonable husband, his coercive behavior is making me wanting to run away from him forever… I'm scared he would divorce me because of this, and in my state he would get 50/50 custody, and so in a way he could literally take away half of my son just because I refused to let him have sex whenever he wants.
I'm absolutely lost. I just want a normal life and raise my son. He is coercing me and I feel really emotionally abused. We get along well in all other aspects of life except this. I don't want to lose half of my son so divorce is not a solution right now.
Also he refuses therapy whatsoever.
What can I do here? Am I being unreasonable? I don't mind if he finds a mistress to fulfill his needs. I just want to be a good mom and raise my son, and go back to work when my son is school age.
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>I've never been coerced like this before. Is this common? I'm so scared and lost sisters. I need some perspective.
>
>I'm a FTM to a 18mo sweet boy. He's my world and I'm taking care of him as a SAHM. I quit my high paying job because both my husband and I agreed it's best to let our son spend the first few years at home.
>
>We've been having a dry spell but we're easing back to the routine. I'm agreeing to sex once a week, even though I don't want it whatsoever. It's like him using my body to masturbate, but the quickie only lasts a few mins so I let him have it.
>
>Lately husband's mom is staying with us to help out, so husband gets more break and is having more "energy" for sex. He's demanding twice a week or sometimes even more. He said since he's paying for everything (food, housing, car stuff, baby stuff, I still pay for my own clothes and skincare) then I need to at least have sex with him. Otherwise we'd split finances and be roommates.
>
>Most days I'm still completely exhausted that I absolutely detest sex. I only get 60 min free time before I go to sleep, why would I waste time in the most boring and painful sex?! I'd much rather space out in bed.
>
>(We sleep in separate rooms; husband watches baby at night and picks baby up if he cries)
>
>Tonight he marched into my room at 10:30pm asking for sex. We had sex just three days ago, and it was getting really late, so I suggested waiting until tomorrow night. He refused to leave and said he would sleep here if I don't give him sex. I said it's too late because I'm usually asleep by 11pm. He said it'll only take a few min.
>
>I said when I'm winding down for sleep, I do not want sex at all. We can do it tomorrow at 9pm when baby falls asleep. He said we have to be spontaneous. So we kept arguing for 10 min and finally baby started crying (thank god) and he went back to baby room.
>
>I felt like a victim… even though he's a good father, a reasonable husband, his coercive behavior is making me wanting to run away from him forever… I'm scared he would divorce me because of this, and in my state he would get 50/50 custody, and so in a way he could literally take away half of my son just because I refused to let him have sex whenever he wants.
>
>I'm absolutely lost. I just want a normal life and raise my son. He is coercing me and I feel really emotionally abused. We get along well in all other aspects of life except this. I don't want to lose half of my son so divorce is not a solution right now.
>
>Also he refuses therapy whatsoever.
>
>What can I do here? Am I being unreasonable? I don't mind if he finds a mistress to fulfill his needs. I just want to be a good mom and raise my son, and go back to work when my son is school age.
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Call pipo bipoc, latinx.
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>>2663604what the fuck is this?
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>>2663617it's angry leftoids doing literal gayops